ASK Teany Q&A Question
Wow, I've never seen so many likes and views on this question! I'm guessing people want to know what to avoid in careers. Read on.
Question: What glamorized career path is actually a complete nightmare?
So here's the deal... any job can be a nightmare if your mindset about it is off. For example if you go into a job just because you need the money, or for some desperate measure. Or if you take on a higher position because you don’t want to look bad in front of your boss or you’ll never get asked to be promoted again. Those are all not so great ways to set yourself up for success.
Aside from your own mindset about a job I have to say that watching many artists (singers, actors, etc.) their lives are also not as glamorous as they look on the stage. I just watched the documentary on Lady Gaga and she has suffered greatly in her career.
However, she finally learned to say no to what she doesn’t want to participate in and say yes to that which actually fits perfectly with who she is, what she wants to represent and her passion. She talks about mindset too. Check it out.
Ultimately its all about what career/purpose fits with your personal vision. Anything that messes with this ends up becoming hard to handle.
Hope that helps!
The truth is any job can be a nightmare if pursued for reasons that break your values, goals, desires and passions. So choose wisely!
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In my first Ask Teany Q&A I answer this very question. I can totally relate. Read on.
A recent client asked:
What if you are no longer interested in your current career path because you're not happy with it? You want to give that up and start a new chapter in life. You're not sure that your friends and family support you. How do you find motivation to do it anyway?
So many are in jobs they don't love ... anymore. If this is you, then keep reading for help on this very topic. Then COMMENT below on your personal journey or ask me a question.
I resonate with this on so many different levels and had this pivot point happen to me several times, hence why I became a Purpose Coach. Couple things I learned:
# 1: You are your worst enemy in your mind - so ignore the neg, and focus on all the reasons you should switch. Your family, friends etc. who you think won’t approve… yeah that’s all in your head. It was in mine. As soon as I told my family I was changing gears they were all in favor of my happiness. And let’s be honest those that aren’t happy with your decisions, probably have there own personal stuff going on that has nothing to do with you. That said, doesn't hurt to learn more about what you actually would like to do before you take the plunge.
# 2: Go with your gut/intuition on what to do next. After 9 years working in corporate I hated my job. I liked the people enough, but I wasn't doing anything meaningful or contributing to anything but the bottom dollar of the company. I made the choice to take a 3 month sabbatical or you can take a brief vacation, whatever works. THAT was the best decision ever. It helped me clear my mind and focus on what I truly cared about, my values, and potential options.
#3: Research research research. After you start figuring out what you’re passionate about and potential purpose-driven gigs that matter to you - research. I discovered ppl I could shadow, schools where I could audit classes, or open houses where I could ask questions. The more information you have the more of an informed decision you can make and the less scared you are to tell your family and employers what you’re about to do. Knowledge is power. :)
#4 Full emersion is the key after that. Learn as much as you can, even if you have to take courses at night, research on the weekends, etc. The more you get into what you’re into, the more it fuels your motivation. Trust me when you find it, you’ll see its natural to be motivated even if a little scared. I was in school at night for almost 2 years and enjoyed every minute of it. I found a job in the field as soon as I was done and was super passionate about it!
Now go get em! :)
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Cheers to your purpose with passion,
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I've been through 3 MAJOR shifts in my life and boy did they bring out that passion in me!
Each lead me to where I am, and no step was badly taken as I learned from every single one. And most importantly I learned that the journey brought me closer to discovering my inner passions.
These 3 major shifts in my career occurred since college. My passion(s) made an appearance each time and I say that with an S because at each stage I was sure I knew what I was interested in and what I was passionate about. Having my strong-willed and energetic personality and went for it full throttle. Why? Because I felt it in my core and my heart and ie. It resonated with exactly where I was in the moment. So the truth is you have many passions, and they may change at various stages of your life.
In college I realized engineering was not my passion, not because I wasn’t a problem solver, but because the semantics and details were not stimulating enough or creative enough for me. I wanted something that would help me be more creative and grow.
In 2008 while in the middle of my tech/design career, I had been working on integrating a newfound value for contributing to something greater, and realized the job I had while I was good at it and it used my talents of creativity and problem solving, was not really giving back or helping people in a bigger way. I needed more meaning!
Now in 2012, I was on a search to bringing all the talents I had fostered to even bigger heights and add spice to it. That career had to have all of the other aspects creativity, problem solving, and contribution to something greater. And now it had to have a deeper sense of passion! As I searched for it I realized how much I could help others with their own self-discovery and how I really had this deep passion all along.
So in 2017 I started working on a new coaching program after watching sooo many people feel miserable where they were working. Can you imagine spending 8-10 hours at work unhappy? I had to shine a light on that inner fire that was burning within.
I created the Purpose with Passion program which is meant to help you become aware of where you tripped up before, and get you connected to your own core so that when you are presented with options based on your open gifts, talents and ambitions you can then trust your own guidance about what truly lights you up. And not only that but it helps you EVOLVE and keep fostering high performance habits that you can carry in to all areas of your life.
I'm using everything I've learned in my life, and skills in corporate america interviewing, hiring, training and leading; as well as, all the intuitive and energetic work in wellness that has helped me understand peoples deep feelings, motivations and how to bring it out.
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Inner Bliss Coach Teany
You can now choose to think differently, think positively, or worst case think of something else until you can come back to that topic with a more open mind. The point is to refocus on something that will change your mindset. A new way of seeing things and feeling. Don't concentrate on what's past, that will just make you nostalgic and sad, focus on the now where you have the most opportunity to make a change and take steps.
I remember a few years back, I had reached the point where I was sick of not having a car and having to borrow one all the time. It got to the breaking point where I'd had it! So what did I do? I refocused all that energy that could have been used for anger at others, at myself and at the situation. I used it to promise myself that within a week I'd have a new car. And here's the key, i focused all my energy on it. Every drop went into then searching and figuring out ways to get it and also allowing things to open up for me.
Guess what happened?
I got my car in 3 days! Saturday I looked at cars and found the one I envisioned - Yes envisioned - Sunday I signed the paperwork, Monday I went to the DMV and got my plates. BAM, best decision I've made time and time again is to refocus my thoughts and energy on what I truly wanted!
Anything is possible if you ask for it and focus on it!
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Your Coach, Teany
Sometimes you choose goals for yourself that are in conflict with your mission, and sometimes you have internal beliefs that are in conflict with both. I recently experienced this as I was planning on growth for my business. Holy cow what a huge shift I experienced as I began to process how to get my mission, goals and beliefs all in sync. The struggle is real y'all but not impossible. Never that.
The thing is..
Sometimes you're standing in the middle of the storm and don't see that the outer rim is a few feet away. My coach was fantastic at showing me where that blind spot was so that I could expand and plan for bigger and more badass things for my future and the people I would be helping.
But imagine if we didn't have these moments of struggle, coupled with moments of temporary ignorance. Those eventually catapult us through the road less traveled and even more brilliant ideas and dreams than we ever imagined. We would miss out on a lot of valuable lessons right? The kind of lessons that ground us and show us how resilient we are and resourceful we can be.
As you begin your quest don't forget to pack a few things in your arsenal:
1. Trust your gut.
It has never failed me and if I have "failed" it's because I didn't listen to it. We often ignore our instinct because we don't trust ourselves but I'm hear to tell you to listen to that voice in your head. And by the way it's never really "failure" anyway because all of those moments are a lessons to be learned.
2. Lead with your heart.
Follow what your heart is guiding you to do. Aka whatever the 'next best thing' is. People get overwhelmed by this 'follow your passion' thing but how about we follow whatever that next best thing is which just might lead you to your passion. This goes along with following your gut. Often it's most felt in your emotions and lately I've been on a mission to trust those feeling to take me where I need to go. From business to relationships. Abraham Hicks asks us to use our emotions as our guide in anything we do and it makes sense. If you can't feel positive about something don't do it or get yourself in a good feeling place first. Simple.
3. Remove what doesn't serve you.
Ok this is the part where you sit with yourself and say "[your name] where is there baggage in my life? What is truly preventing me for reaching my dreams?" That could be people, or beliefs, or maybe just consider where you are concentrating your energy. Ask yourself... are you passionate about it, is it of value to you, is it lucrative and is it serving you and/or others the way you want it to? I literally created a spreadsheet on this to help me organize and spearhead a direction. Need help with this? Contact me.
4. Leave plenty of room for yourself.
We are not robots. Even thought many wish we were. We all get 24 hours and have to make use of it. But that doesn't mean that you should cram 10 million projects in it. Trust me I was the queen of the busyness syndrome and sometimes still need to hone back. I have learned over difficult lessons that you have to make room for down time and relaxation and self-care aside from all the good things you want to do. It's hard to pick up that pina colada sometimes, but hey someone's gotta do it ;-)
5. There is no end goal.
Yes there are goals and those may have timelines but those just lead you to other goals, and other roads. AKA your life will be filled with many. So how about we enjoy the journey, get things done, and continue enjoying it along the way. Keep following your heart and gut and be lead to do the things that truly bring you joy. There is no end, only new beginnings.
For more help on getting on track with your dreams, contact me for a 30 min strategy session. Let's do this!
It was in 2008 when I discovered the world of holistic health... stop me if you've heard this story but I actually bless the day my back started hurting due to work because it's the day I met my chiropractor. No it's not a love affair perse... its a holistic love affair with wellness that began. It was painful, it was nerve crazy, it cracked, yep my chiropractor adjusted me to fix brachial plexus pain and cervical subluxation. In other words I had been carrying my heavy laptop bag for so long my neck and shoulder were swerving to the right cramping my nerves... OUCH! What would've hurt more is if I had continued that crazy route without receiving any treatment. Look I have nothing against Western medicine, it has its place, but there's no way anything but surgery and pain killers would've fixed it if it hadn't been for my chiro.
So there you have it... he fixed me alright!
He fixed my shoulder so well that I had to ask 10 million questions on how he did and how I can do the same thing at home. Yep I'm a DIY type girl but I knew I'd have to get some degree or schooling to truly become understand it. And thanks to his patience I learned a heck of lot about my own body and he even inspired me to pursue a career in it. Turns out massage and coaching were my cup of tea and I went in head first, never looking back.
What I learned in these last 7 years since then astounded me!
I've taken steps to add more holistic medicines, practices and practitioners into my realm of healing because I knew in my bones (no pun intended) that the chiro was on to something and so I experimented. Here's how it turned out:
Experiment #1- 3 day cleanse
I had done several 1 day cleanses but this past year I took the plunge and did a 3 day and WOW what an amazing experience. I learned:
1- My body can get used to living off juices and not crave food as much. No kidding!
2- My body had become allergic to foods over the years and it came to light as I reintroduced cheese products, certain vegetables, and certain spices. I immediately noticed a reaction as soon as that day because my body had become so clean that anything that it didn't agree with it rejected and turned into a pimple, stomach ache or other equally unpleasant reaction. Try it... carefully of course!
My cleanse of choice - www.blueprintcleanse.com
Experiment #2 - Exercise combos
I'd been an athlete as a kid but had fallen off the wagon now and again since then. Finally I decided to do something more interesting and add a trampoline with a fun addition to my workouts. I learned:
1- Combinations with music, youtube audios ROCK! It keeps me listening and enjoying the experience so much more. So with whatever workout you do make sure you combine it with something or someone you love to make the experiences 2 or 3x more fun!
2- It improved my blood pressure, lymphatic and circulatory system, and my legs and abs have never looked so GOOD! Take that Tina Turner!
My trampoline of choice -
Experiment #3: Natural pain release
Yes there's nothing wrong with the occasional ibuprofen or NSAID, but there's nothing like natural pain release to make a more permanent change. I started practicing what I call "Somatic Healing with Intentional Focus Technique" (SHIFT)... it's basics involve focusing on the area of pain, and holding the intention to release it which is most often emotional or experiential. I would literally feel my body release that point via emotions or energy moving through and away from that point making it feel way better! I learned:
1- I tried this with a consistent pain I'd been having on my right lower back and it may be slightly achy at worst these days. Next step, practicing it a few times in the same location to remove it completely.
2- It helped me realize that often chronic pain is emotional or becomes so because of the difficult to resist mental focus on it. Humans are notorious for focusing on the neg but the good news is we can change that!
Experiment #4: Natural emotional release
Again there's nothing wrong with seeing a therapist or coach for that matter ;-) But what if you can learn how to release some of the emotional blocks yourself and be in a happier state more consistently? (thanks Abraham Hicks) I was watching an interview on Oprah with Pema Chodron and she talked aboutcompassionate abiding which in essence is the emotional reframed approach of SHIFT. It involves feeling the emotional pain and then locating where it's connected to your body. Then letting the emotions move through you without resisting it. I learned:
1 - It works just as well as SHIFT does because the intention is the same - release - whether emotional or physical at first.
2 - The feeling of the release leaves such a peace and happiness that it makes you wonder why we ever live with pain for very long at all!
These 4 experiments of changing or incorporating some daily habits and being consistent at it has been soooo seeded in my being that NOW my first question when working through any physical/emotional need is how can I handle this holistically. I recommend you try these out and if you have any questions please feel free to comment, private inbox me, or call me 202.630.7263. Let's share our experiences!
Yours in holistic healing,
If over 18+ years in Corporate America, licenses in massage. energy work and purpose coaching, 1000's of client sessions and good old fashioned life taught me something, it's that life is worth living and living passionately!