You can now choose to think differently, think positively, or worst case think of something else until you can come back to that topic with a more open mind. The point is to refocus on something that will change your mindset. A new way of seeing things and feeling. Don't concentrate on what's past, that will just make you nostalgic and sad, focus on the now where you have the most opportunity to make a change and take steps.
I remember a few years back, I had reached the point where I was sick of not having a car and having to borrow one all the time. It got to the breaking point where I'd had it! So what did I do? I refocused all that energy that could have been used for anger at others, at myself and at the situation. I used it to promise myself that within a week I'd have a new car. And here's the key, i focused all my energy on it. Every drop went into then searching and figuring out ways to get it and also allowing things to open up for me.
Guess what happened?
I got my car in 3 days! Saturday I looked at cars and found the one I envisioned - Yes envisioned - Sunday I signed the paperwork, Monday I went to the DMV and got my plates. BAM, best decision I've made time and time again is to refocus my thoughts and energy on what I truly wanted!
Anything is possible if you ask for it and focus on it!
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Your Coach, Teany
Sometimes you choose goals for yourself that are in conflict with your mission, and sometimes you have internal beliefs that are in conflict with both. I recently experienced this as I was planning on growth for my business. Holy cow what a huge shift I experienced as I began to process how to get my mission, goals and beliefs all in sync. The struggle is real y'all but not impossible. Never that.
The thing is..
Sometimes you're standing in the middle of the storm and don't see that the outer rim is a few feet away. My coach was fantastic at showing me where that blind spot was so that I could expand and plan for bigger and more badass things for my future and the people I would be helping.
But imagine if we didn't have these moments of struggle, coupled with moments of temporary ignorance. Those eventually catapult us through the road less traveled and even more brilliant ideas and dreams than we ever imagined. We would miss out on a lot of valuable lessons right? The kind of lessons that ground us and show us how resilient we are and resourceful we can be.
As you begin your quest don't forget to pack a few things in your arsenal:
1. Trust your gut.
It has never failed me and if I have "failed" it's because I didn't listen to it. We often ignore our instinct because we don't trust ourselves but I'm hear to tell you to listen to that voice in your head. And by the way it's never really "failure" anyway because all of those moments are a lessons to be learned.
2. Lead with your heart.
Follow what your heart is guiding you to do. Aka whatever the 'next best thing' is. People get overwhelmed by this 'follow your passion' thing but how about we follow whatever that next best thing is which just might lead you to your passion. This goes along with following your gut. Often it's most felt in your emotions and lately I've been on a mission to trust those feeling to take me where I need to go. From business to relationships. Abraham Hicks asks us to use our emotions as our guide in anything we do and it makes sense. If you can't feel positive about something don't do it or get yourself in a good feeling place first. Simple.
3. Remove what doesn't serve you.
Ok this is the part where you sit with yourself and say "[your name] where is there baggage in my life? What is truly preventing me for reaching my dreams?" That could be people, or beliefs, or maybe just consider where you are concentrating your energy. Ask yourself... are you passionate about it, is it of value to you, is it lucrative and is it serving you and/or others the way you want it to? I literally created a spreadsheet on this to help me organize and spearhead a direction. Need help with this? Contact me.
4. Leave plenty of room for yourself.
We are not robots. Even thought many wish we were. We all get 24 hours and have to make use of it. But that doesn't mean that you should cram 10 million projects in it. Trust me I was the queen of the busyness syndrome and sometimes still need to hone back. I have learned over difficult lessons that you have to make room for down time and relaxation and self-care aside from all the good things you want to do. It's hard to pick up that pina colada sometimes, but hey someone's gotta do it ;-)
5. There is no end goal.
Yes there are goals and those may have timelines but those just lead you to other goals, and other roads. AKA your life will be filled with many. So how about we enjoy the journey, get things done, and continue enjoying it along the way. Keep following your heart and gut and be lead to do the things that truly bring you joy. There is no end, only new beginnings.
For more help on getting on track with your dreams, contact me for a 30 min strategy session. Let's do this!
If over 18+ years in Corporate America, licenses in massage. energy work and purpose coaching, 1000's of client sessions and good old fashioned life taught me something, it's that life is worth living and living passionately!