This year I noticed myself hugging my son and friends so much tighter and thinking wow I'm so lucky to have great people in my life. And then I thought about people that only seem to attract short term friends or even enemies. Reminds me of that saying hold your family close and your enemies closer. Not because you have to sleep with one eye open! But the way I see it you obviously have much in common with your close friends/family and so they mean a lot to you. But imagine your enemies or to put it more lightly, those that test your patience the most... well those are the one's that you learn from the most.
So what does that mean?
Well it means that as you go through this year and as we are currently in the month that reminds you to love more, let's stop for a moment and think about those that test and straight piss us off the most. The one's that you would sooner run than share a meal with. Those are the one's you need to consider thinking about because its worth figuring out what aspect of YOU you may be pushing away from yourself. And possibly what has affected you in the past that you haven't let go of.
What does my enemy have to do with me?
Sometimes when we have strong reactions toward people, situations, words said, or actions taken its more about you than it is them. Why do you seem to jump to react, why does it erk you so, why react at all? If you are aware that the rage comes up now is the time to notice and ask yourself 3, 2, 1, 1, 2, 3, what the heck is bothering me. Because if indeed it didn't in matter, and you don't care one way or the other, you'd be more focused on other more important things.
Now I'm not saying to accept what anyone does to you. There are many cases of unfairness in the world. But consider the current activity in your life, what kind of situations are you drawing to yourself consistently and hold your enemies under a magnifying glass. Then look in the mirror because what my be erking you about them is really about you. If you're not ready to digest all that, no worries. Awareness of the effect things have on you is STEP 1. STEP 2 is understanding it. And here's the last step.
Find the jewels in your enemies.
Yep. I said it! Well Elizabeth Gilbert started it. haha But seriously, when I read her quote I thought wow that's so true. We all have amazing talents and amazing qualities inside us. WHAT IF... instead of judging and casting blame and hating, we started by meeting people, or even seeing people we know and immediately started uncovering the hidden jewels that indeed we all have?? Then we'd appreciate what they have individually versus where we differ.
Cheers! Here's to that February reminder that love is not just 1 day, or 1 month, but in everything and everyone if only we can find those precious jewels that represent it.
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If over 17+ years in Corporate America, licenses in massage. energy work and coaching, working with 100's of clients and good old fashioned life taught me something, it's that life is worth living and living passionately! Enjoy these thoughts & lessons :-) Namaste, Coach Teany